Tresa's Blog

Update: Wednesday the 23rd—Facebook has set up a page and ways to connect the stranded drivers and to anyone else with help or information.

Topix Link to story and comments.

As one who has had a trucking company and worked for trucking companies I know this is a nightmare.  My sympathies go out to the employees and if the owners were truly trying to keep it together and do the best for everyone my thoughts are with them.  The cause of the drivers being stranded is that the fuel cards were turned off.  I used to have to put $5-$10,000 in the bank every few days for fuel for our trucks and I think there were only 10.  During this time my personal car payments were always late and we got an overdue notice from the electric company every month so it’s not the lap of luxury it looks like.

But as the wife of a truck driver/owner I feel for those drivers trapped @ truck stops through no fault of their own.  I was just thinking how if something happened to our truck we would have to rent a car to get home because of the dog and all the things we have in the truck, refrigerator, microwave, blankets and pillows and rugs I really don’t want to just throw away.  So here are these guys with a bus ticket home but they can only take so much luggage on the bus.  Damiler finance company is paying for the bus tickets.  Daimler financing is paying for the bus tickets for drivers who drove Kenworths and Freightliners which is only right.  I guess Arrow had the trucks refinanced through them (been there done that too) and couldn’t make the payments.    Here’s a link to all the news stories about arrow trucking bus ticket.  I’ve read they had 1000-1400 trucks and 1000 drivers and 300 office employees just in Tulsa OK.

Some people are offering their frequent flier miles to stranded drivers.  One shipper on topix said he shipped a load yesterday and he’s done business with arrow for years.  He goes on to say if the truck driver who took the load will contact him he will give him fuel money and pay to deliver the load and make sure the guy gets home.  What better exemplifies the true Christian Christmas Spirit.  I’m a bit weepy over it.

So if you can’t do anything else give these drivers your good thoughts.  It’s a horrible thing to happen right before Christmas in this already financially shaky year.

What is Tiger Woods famous for?  Playing Golf.  Is he famous for being a moral compass for America or the world?  Is he famous for sharing his life philosophy for others to share (you could argue that one but the guy is a golfer).  Does Tiger play golf well now.  We suppose since no harm has came to his coordination and he didn’t have any broken bones.   How many people did he seriously hurt?  his family and the women he had affairs with.  His public perhaps but if you were truly hurt by his affair you are BEYOND needing to get a life.  He didn’t steal, he didn’t murder, he didn’t drive drunk and hurt someone, and he didn’t drive texting which is next to driving drunk in my book.  What is Tigers role in sports?  To play golf.  Did we idolize him for his family life and the shining example he provided.  Nope, we idolized him before he got married, the supposedly happy marriage added to his charisma but was not his whole identity.

I know the guy is a dog.  Many men are dogs.  Many men are dogs that you wouldn’t guess are dogs.  Take it from a woman who was sometimes propositioned by them.  Now I’m going to really confuse you and tell you I’m Polyanna.  I really didn’t take any man up on a proposition that was his idea.  Get the drift?  AND I’ve been more chaste than MANY women my age.  So I’m not saying this as the other woman or the harlot.  I’m saying this as a realist.

And here we go…… men can change…it’s not likely and they have to be led by the nose sometimes kicking and screaming but it is possible.  I can swear to that fact without going into details.   I’ve also known many men who were dogs.  Thank goodness I wasn’t married to them but were they charming and great guys?  Yes but they were still dogs.

I feel for Tigers wife.  Her shame was broadcast around the world.  You say she should have no shame?  Take it from one who was the cheated on wife many many times, you feel shame and anger and disgust and horror in the pit of your stomach.  I didn’t get a divorce because of the cheating but that provided me ample ammunition, it was the lying about other things, the continuous not knowing where you stood.  We won’t go into all of that, it’s water under the bridge but you can overcome being cheated on.  I’m not saying Tigers wife should overcome it but you CAN overcome it.

I feel that enough attention has been given to the whole thing, it should die down.  They will get divorced or not and find other partners whom they will treat differently or not.  I don’t think either one of them are horrible people.  He really didn’t have any reason to cheat except he COULD and he could in so many ways with so many women.  How many men could resist that tempation? I know if men are honest probably 75% would say the thought has seriously crossed their minds.

In closing I’m all for monogamy.  I practice it daily.  I also allow my husband to look @ other women, he’s going to anyway so….he can’t touch and he really shouldn’t talk to them either if he wants to remain whole but he is going to look.  Sometimes this is really funny as he will go on and on about a girl and I will be talking to someone else and eventually I will tell him, you can shut up about her already, I heard you.  Now just look in quiet, I don’t want to share the moment with you.

Just look into your own heart and he who has not sinned can cast the first stone.  Sorry for whom disagree and I have offended but it’s the truth as I see it.